I don't know about you, but I used to react to situations on impulse.
If someone said something to hurt me, I instantly went on the defensive, and acted out.
It took years to understand that taking time to think things through was a better way.
I understand that people say things out of anger, and hurt feelings.
They feel the need to lash out.
The louder they yell, the better they feel.
Especially if they can do it in front of others.
They make a direct hit!
It helps relieve their own pain.
The world tells me to be ruthless, and quick to react in return.
If I'm called the name, then play the game, right?
*I ask for your forgiveness for making you so angry with me that you felt like you needed to say what you did, the way you did it.
I ask God to help me slow down when reacting to you so that I may treat you with compassion, love, and truth.
For the Lord is compassionate, gracious, and slow to anger. He is abundant in faithful love, and truth. Psalm 86:15.
By not making judgments, but slowly and deliberately acting with tenderness, and self-control, we will bring honor to God.
We will build the people up around us, and keep conflict from building.
I don't see that as being self-righteous.
I see that as trying to be proactive, and doing God's will.
For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God. Rom.3:23.